Monday, September 20, 2010
Super Mom?
I've been wondering lately, what makes us try to be super moms? What is it that makes us think that everything has to be perfect and, in the meantime, we forget to enjoy the journey? What are the most important things? How do you know? How do you know when you are doing too much? How do we avoid trying to do it all? What are your priorities? What is most important for your family, and how do you fit it all in?
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Ummmmm.....this sounds TERRIBLE but I don't try to be supermom. I'm am strictly in survival mode. I can't tell you the number of things that were priority that have gone to the wayside- primarily having the "parade of homes" home where everything is in it's place, immaculate, and no game pieces or puzzle pieces are lost. I currently am having an internal struggle about organized sports and finally enrolling my children in them because I don't want the added craziness (my husband and mother are pushing me that direction). On the other hand MUSIC instruction is SUPER important to me- I would rather have that craziness then running from game to game. So here comes the guilt of not providing opportunities for my children. Right now......I say "I don't care, if they have that talent, they can play in high school." It's partly wrong I know but then again, the general authorities have repeatedly told us not to do to much. How I wish I could prolong our family's separativeness because of extra-curricular activities without feeling that guilt of not providing opportunity...............
ReplyDeleteMy thoughts have also been along that same line. How do we take care of all our families needs(or supposed needs) and still enjoy them? I found this quote in Sister Beck's last conference talk that seemed to be the answer to prayer and pondering for me, she said, "We are doing well when we develop attributes of Christ and strive to obey His gospel with exactness...when we seek to improve ourselves and do our best..when we increase our faith and personal righteousness, strengthen families and homes, and seek out and help others who are in need. We know we are successful if we live so that we qualify for, receive, and know how to follow the Spirit. We may still experience dissapointments, but we will not be dissapointed in ourselves. We can feel certain the Lord is pleased when we feel the Spirit working through us. Peace, joy, and hope are available to those who measure success properly." So in pratical application I too have cut out some outside activities for our family. This has opened up more opportunity for family "extra-curriculars" and my kids don't seem to feel left out. In fact after a family game of soccer the other night my oldest decided he'd organize his own team(which included his aunt who played in college, sadly she lives in HI so his idea for stacking his team was a let down.) but I love the initiative! Also I've started a "mom's helper" program. This was out of desperation, too much fighting over who got to help out with new baby. On their day the chosen child helps prep meals, fetch things and dress baby, hold baby oftener, help arrange FHE, go on erands etc. as the day pans out. I've loved the indiviual time, I really enjoy talking to my kids when they're not all talking to me at once! Then to go with Sister Beck's comment I've been asking, does what I'm doing make me more Christlike and does it allow the spirit to work through me? Still a long way to go but perfection means progession right?! Now LouAnne you'd better share some of your thoughts since you've obviously been pondering this topic.
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